10 Subtle Differences That Separate Men From Boys

Being a male is a matter of birth, being a man is a matter of age, but being a gentleman is a matter of choice.

Not a choice made once or twice during one's life, but a series of choices made every single day when navigating the world, and life.

So what then are these choices that separate the gentlemen from the rest of the pack?

The men who hold themselves to higher standards. Let's explore.

Here are 10 subtle differences that separate the men from the boys:

1. A gentleman is kind to everyone

A man of quality is never afraid of equality. There's no reason to talk down to or disrespect anyone you come across in your daily life. Whether it's the person serving your coffee, cleaning the floor at the gym, or the CEO of your company, they are all human beings and are deserving of respect.

2. A gentleman never shows up empty-handed

If someone is extending the kindness of hosting you at their home, never show up without a sign of gratitude. Your choice will range depending on the context of the occasion and who's doing the hosting, but showing that you're grateful for the invitation is what counts.

3. A gentleman always improves himself

In order to get respect from others, you first must have it for yourself. This means taking care of both your physical and mental well-being. In a Photoshop-ridden society, our generations certainly appear to value surface over substance, but a gentleman understands the importance of what goes beyond the outer shell.

Whether it's reading books, listening to lectures, watching documentaries, or any other educational medium he prefers, it's important to not lose sight of improving the mind while also working on improving the body.

4. A gentleman values his family and relationships

More important than professional accomplishment and success is cultivating relationships with the people whom you will share it with. A gentleman will understand that no matter how far he makes it in life, it's better to be in a cottage with people he loves than it is to be in a mansion by himself.

5. A gentleman isn't afraid to be wrong

Many people in today's day and age seem to have an incredible avoidance of being wrong. They will take a stand on a position and never allow new information or evidence to change their mind. This puts up a stone wall around your current base of knowledge and allows no room for expansion beyond it.

The only way to learn or grow is to be wrong. Only when you're wrong do you absorb new information, change your stance, and subsequently become "right." Without the ability to admit a mistake, there will be no lessons to take from it.

6. A gentleman always keeps the woman in his life happy

It's important for a gentleman to hold high standards for how he acts when he's in a relationship. This includes never mistreating her or taking her for granted, always valuing her, and showing her that he does (not just telling her).

He will understand that the effort it took to get the type of woman he wants is the same effort it will take to keep her and that a lady would never accept being taken for granted any more than he would. He will never lose sight of doing the small things that make her happy.

7. A gentleman is always honest

A reputation for honesty breeds a reputation for reliability. A reputation for trustworthiness. A reputation for being honorable. Consistency is important in both personal and professional life.

8. A gentleman understands the difference between confidence and arrogance

And knows which side of the line to stay on.

9. A gentleman knows the difference between calling a woman sexy and calling her beautiful

And he knows how and when to use each term.

10. A gentleman puts others first

There's no room among the gentlemanly for the selfish. There's no room for those who believe climbing the ladder means stepping on others along the way. There's no room for those who mistreat others for their own benefit or any reason at all.