Guys tend to have a really simplistic view of sex. In fact, we’ve all probably met at least one or two guys who think that the secret to great sex is his wang. Though there’s nothing wrong with the ol’ P in V, most women don’t want that to be the be-all, end-all way to the Big O.

While guys may think it’s impossible, there are other ways to make a woman orgasm without using their penis at all. After all, these methods do exist.

1. Oral sex

Our mouths can do things that penises can’t. They can swirl, suck, nibble, and tease. A good round of cunnilingus will make most women have multiple orgasms, and that means that he has no excuse not to pleasure you.

2. G-spot massage

Did you know that you can actually trigger a wave of orgasms by repeatedly rubbing up against your G-spot? It’s true. There are plenty of tutorials on how to do it online, and if you’re lucky, you might even squirt!

3. Analingus

If you’re comfortable letting him near your back door, you might find the entire experience to be something you won’t soon forget. There are a lot of nerve endings back there, and if he knows how to lick it right, it can be a more powerful orgasm than what you’d get with regular cunnilingus.

4. Steamy phone sex

It sounds far-fetched for most women, but here’s the real deal. Our brains are the largest sex organs we have. If your partner is very turned on by the dirty little things you whisper to them over the phone, it’s very possible to have them cross the finish line before they even get their underwear off.

5. Using toys

Toys are wonderful and they can do things that penises can’t. Even doing something as simple as tying you to the bed and turning on a toy that works what you’ve got between your legs can be a quick way for him to make you orgasm.

6. Maximizing foreplay

Many women can get very, very turned on from minimal foreplay. And it shouldn’t be too surprising that plenty of women can also climax from sex. Foreplay includes having sex without penetration, but it can still make her cross the finish line just as quickly.

7. BDSM and kink

Make no mistake about it. BDSM can and does help women and men have orgasms. In many cases, being tied up, teased, and flogged can actually create more intense orgasms than regular sex can. If he’s a freak in the sheets, then he’s definitely capable of making you go nuts with the help of some kinky toys and ideas.

8. Breast play

True story: there are some churches out there that teach guys how to make women orgasm via breast play in hopes that they will get couples to stay chaste. What’s really amazing about this is that you don’t even have to go below the belt to make her orgasm with this tactic, so he really has no excuse!