Pegging.

It's one of those terms you hear everywhere these days.

I mean, maybe it's just a word I hear all the time in my world because I'm a sex writer, but I don't think so.

Pegging has definitely entered the vernacular, and it's become an increasingly popular thing to do in bed with your partner.

Which is awesome. 

DAMN awesome! 

And you totally know what pegging is, right? 

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Yeah, that's what I thought.

YOU DON'T.

And that's totally fine! 

That's why I'm here. 

You aren't alone. 

There are lots of folks who don't know what pegging is. And because of that, they are missing out on the chance to explore a new corner of their sexuality. 

With that in mind, I decided to answer some of the most commonly asked questions I hear about pegging. 

Hopefully, yours is among them! 

What the heck is pegging anyway? 

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Why, I'm so glad you asked! 

Pegging is when a man and woman have anal sex. 

Only in this case, it isn't the woman who is the receiver. 

Instead of a man putting his penis inside her anus during sex, during pegging a woman inserts a dildo into her man's anus. 

Here's where it gets really hot.

She's not just doing this manually. 

She's WEARING the dildo over her own genitalia by way of a strap-on harness. 

So ... it's the same as anal sex with a dildo? 

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Well, yes and no. 

There are some pretty fundamentally differences. 

When a woman penetrates a man during anal sex using a hand-held vibrator, she doesn't derive any physical sexual pleasure from the act. 

When a woman penetrates a man during anal sex while wearing a strap-on, the pressure and movement of inserting the dildo can bring some women to orgasm. 

Why the heck do guys like pegging? 

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Why do guys like pegging, you ask?

Easy.

Many men enjoy anal stimulation.

For some, just a finger is enough, for others, the bigger the dildo, the better. 

Unlike women, men have prostates. 

The prostate is easy to stimulate through the anus, which can cause explosive orgasms for them. 

But it doesn't stop there.

For many men, being pegged isn't just about the prostate. 

It's about the switch in gender roles. 

Having the woman take on such a powerful dominant role while they are made to be submissive is a kink that some men just absolutely adore. 

Does every guy on earth like pegging? 

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Nope.

Every person under the sun is unique.

That applies to their sexual preferences too! 

While some men might like being pegged, other men will run screaming from the room should you even ask to stick a pinkie up their butthole. 

Even a man who is into being submissive doesn't have to like being pegged. 

Do guys like pegging? Sure, some of them do. But you won't know if your man does unless you ask. 

Never assume that your partner is going to want something just because it seems "normal" to want it. 

While it can be embarrassing (especially early on) to have conversations with your partner about what they like and what they don't like, it's crucial to make sure your sex life thrives.

If I want to peg my boyfriend, where do I start?

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If YOU want to try pegging your partner, talk to him about it! 

If he isn't keen but he's willing to try to make you happy, then explore using butt plugs of increasing size. 

Use plenty lube, go slow, and make sure he's comfortable with everything that's happening. 

After all, he's trying this out for you, and it goes to follow that you'd want him to feel comfortable at the least ... and hopefully beyond turned on. 

And remember — anything that goes into your butt (or his!) should have a flared base (as in, bigger at the base than at the tip) so that it doesn't disappear in there.

That's an ER visit you really don't want to have to make!